Children and Adolescent counselling is for any young person who’s having problems. Whether it’s depression and mental health concerns or issues with parents or people at school.
The relationship that a child develops with their counsellor is very different to those they share with other adults in their life. The counsellor is a neutral party and not a part of their family life, allowing them the space to open up and be heard in a safe environment.
Counselling for children involves encouraging them to express themselves, just as with adult “talking therapies”. This is often through play, as it helps the child feel at home with sharing their feelings. Using art and play allows children to explore their thoughts and feelings in a way that is most comfortable for them.
Most children have moments when they will lash out in anger, shouting, throwing or kicking objects and there are many reasons why a child may not be behaving properly. A young child may show difficult behaviour because they’re tired, hungry, overexcited, bored or frustrated, for example. Whilst most children go through phases where they push the limits, if the challenging behaviour is causing distress to you or to other family members, it’s important to address it early on.
Behavioural challenges can occur in children of all ages. Some may only experience minor difficulties, while others may have more serious behavioural issues. If you’re worried about a child, consider the following:
- Is the challenging behaviour continuous (lasting several months or longer)?
- Is the behaviour repetitive; lashing out, being disobedient or aggressive?
- Is their behaviour out of the ordinary?
- Are they continually breaking the rules at school or at home?
Parents often feel helpless and in despair about their children’s behaviour and unsure on the best approach to tackle this. It is not uncommon for parents to feel responsible for their child’s behaviour. Some parents are ashamed to admit that they can’t control their children’s aggression and are reluctant to talk about it, especially if the aggression is directed at the parents. If you are facing a similar issue in your home, it may feel like you are ‘walking on eggshells’, fearing another outburst at any moment. You may be feeling isolated and unable to share this with anyone as you may fear being judged for your child’s behaviour.
It is important to seek support and advice as soon as you can so help can be put in place for your child and the rest of the family. At CoRe Counselling, we offer you advice and support if you are struggling with this issue or something similar. Dealing with behaviour problems and recognising any related difficulties is important and can give your child a better chance for the future.
We offer a range of therapeutic treatments depending on the severity of the problem, age and circumstance of your child. These include Play Therapy and Animal Assisted Therapy.
Therapy for Children with ADHD
Counselling can assist children with ADHD to do better in school and at home. Some children may also benefit from counselling to help ease difficult emotions caused by ADHD. For example, children might lose confidence or feel like they’re disappointing others. By learning skills to manage ADHD, they do better.
At CoRe Counselling, children learn by doing. This may be through Play Therapy or activities and ideas to build skills such as good study habits. A positive relationship with the therapist helps children feel encouraged and supported as they learn.
Therapy sessions include activities like:
- Listening and Expressing. The therapist will encourage the child to talk about their feelings. This helps them take notice their feelings and express them in words instead of actions. Talking and listening helps children feel better understood and ready to learn. It also helps children learn to pay attention and improve listening skills.
- Play Therapy. For young children, play can teach self-control, such as waiting to take a turn in a game. The use of games can teach children to slow down, follow directions, and try again instead of losing their temper or giving up. Play is also a way for kids to learn how to plan, organise, and put things away.
- Activities that Teach. Children learn lessons about emotions, organising schoolwork, studying, or understanding others. Activities and worksheets help make these lessons fun.
- Practicing new skills. Children learn skills like mindfulness and breathing exercises. These skills can train attention and calm the mind and body. Therapy sessions can be a time to practice these skills.
- Problem solving. Children learn how to deal with ADHD problems in school and at home.